RIE Parenting – More Respect Less Stress!
One of the fundamental principles of RIE parenting is ‘respect’. Often in life it is a much overused work but in the cae of RIE and the teachings of Magda Gerber it makes total sense.
By showing your baby or toddler respect under RIE parenting you will feel that maybe you are making mistakes. This is normal in life and we all do it.
If you make mistakes this does not mean that you are a bad parent. Actions are ‘choices’ some good ones and some bad ones. Life is all about learning by trial and error – parent’s don’t want to be inadequate parents and they don’t want to make mistakes but however you raise your child you will make them.
Here is an example of ‘respect’ in RIE parenting for you to ponder and understand what makes RIE different. Let’s imagine your baby needs a nappy or diaper your instinct would be to grab the baby and change the nappy.
With RIE parenting you would learn to incorporate respect into this action as follows:
Firstly, you would check whether by removing the nappy if you would be interrupting the baby. Then you would say to baby “I am going to change your diaper”. Followed by vocally telling the baby that you would like to pick them up and ask them if they are ready?. Wait for a response of arms reaching out to you…then you change the diaper.
The baby with RIE has an active participation in their care and not a passive one. This is the kind of respect shown to a child with RIE.
Our lifestyles today are so busy and stressful and you really do not have to do SO much to care for your baby. Gerber’s mantra is ‘do less and let the baby’s develpoment unfold naturally’ . You have less stress and you learn to give your baby the lead.